Discover the pleasure of anal play with our expert guide.

Discover the pleasure of anal play with our expert guide.

I wanted to write this short but important guide to starting your anal adventure. Firstly, we all know nothing smells like roses coming out of there, so unless you're into that sort of thing, you really have two options:

1. Use a Douche or Enema: The short and long of it is you're inserting room temperature water (make sure it's not too hot or too cold) up there, then you go to the toilet, and the water and any other matter comes out. You're done and ready to go.

2. Shower or Bath Play: If you're not ready to use water up your ass, try playing in the shower or bath. My recommendation is to get a thick lube that won't wash away easily. Something like Peppe Back door works great as it stays put no matter how hot the shower is and is affordable for the quantity you get.

Now that you've decided on your cleaning method, let's talk about toys. What size should you start with? As with most things, start small and work your way up. The most important thing is lube, lube, and more lube. There are numbing lubes available, but don't think you can skip starting small just because you're using one – it will still hurt later.

You can start with either a dildo or a butt plug.

For dildos, the length isn't as important as you can control how far you put it into yourself however width and texture will stop you from enjoying yourself. The width or girth is how much you're going to stretch open, so start with a thin girth, something like 2.4cm. Texture is also important. If the dildo has a large penis head, going in is not the issue, but pulling out can actually be painful and damage a tight ass. Trust me, use a smooth texture to begin with.

My tip is before you start, work out roughly what you can handle ?. well try the old fingers test how many you can comfortably insert without hurting. Now you have an idea, start shopping. Remember, everyone is different.

Butt Plugs
There are many butt plug designs: expanders, inflatables, long, short, chubby. The best advice I can give is to buy a trainer kit if you're unsure about size. These kits usually come with three different sizes: small, medium, and large. For beginners, buy the cheaper kits at first – you might like the feel, or it might feel like nothing, so better to spend a little less at first.

For butt plugs, the girth is more important than the length. Small is around 2.4cm wide, and large is anything above 5cm wide. To put that into perspective, the average soda can is 6.6cm wide, so anything above 6cm is getting into fisting size. Remember, work up to your size. Don't just buy an inflatable and think you can get larger faster – it won't happen.

Safety Tips
You might see blood sometimes. This doesn't mean you need to rush to the hospital. It usually means you've micro-torn the tissue in your butt, which is delicate like your lips and bleeds easily. What do you do? Simple, give it a rest. You might still see blood in your stool the next day, but if it continues longer, see your GP. Usually, you have not used enough lube and scratched your ass.

As you work your way up to larger toys, never go too large. What you see in a porno is not what you want like prolapse, huge gape, 2 fists and so forth. Why? Based on personal experiences and research, your ass may not ever recover or be as tight as it was know your limit (putting 2 fists at the same time in your ass it's never going to be the same quite simple right). The downside? You could have a small amount of anal leakage, not like it's falling out, but you will have some discharge if you go too large. So please, stay safe and not too large. Enjoy.

What to Expect
What does it feel like? You'll either love it or hate it. Butt plugs can feel great or make you feel like you need to go to the toilet. My personal recommendation is to use lots of lube, make sure you use a slender and pointy butt plug for easier stretching. If there's blood, it's normal – give it a rest for a week and try again with more lube. Happy anal training!

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